I have an almost 6 months old son, as most of my friends know. As both my husband and myself are working, Joshua is taken care by my mother in law, and we will bring him home with us every night. There are nights that he will sleep with his grandma (my mum in law) to enable my hubby and I to get a good night rest. However, we always make it a point to see him before we go home, as we feel it's very important for us to build a strong relationship/bond with our son. And it's really great, coz our son is always happy when he sees us when we come home from work. Makes our busy and tiring day vanish with his adorable smile and laughs.
Joshua spent Wednesday and Thursday night with my parents this week. We wanted him to get used to my parents' house as well, in any events in future that might need him to spend some nights there. I have learned that babies are smart enough to recognize their surroundings. Joshua will not sleep in a room or area where he has never slept before at night. We made a mistake on Wednesday night as we dropped him at my parents' place at night. We should have asked my parents to collect him in the daytime and let him get used to my parents' place during the day first. Poor baby cried like crazy when we tried to put him to sleep in my parents' room. Refused to sleep. In the end, we tried putting him to sleep where we usually put him when we visit my parents. Thankfully he seemed to recognize the place, and promptly went to sleep till 5am when he woke up for his milk. Amazing!
Hubby and I planned to go see him on Thursday night. Everything was already planned. I'm to wait at home while waiting for hubby to reach home to pick me up for dinner. We will visit Joshua after our dinner. While waiting for hubby to arrive, my mother called, requesting us not to go visit Joshua as she wants to get Joshua to sleep without the parents around to comfort him. In case next time in future, we are really not around. At one point, I do agree with her. Informed my hubby about it when he came home, so we just went out for dinner.
I told my mum in law that we won't be visiting Joshua and she asked why. I explained to her what my mum told me, and mum in law told me she disagree. She (mum in law) believes that parents should be with their children everyday, even if it's for a few hours. It makes a difference for the baby to see his/her parents once a day. She also mentioned that the love and bond of grandparents with their grandchildren can never be compared to the love and bond of the babies and their parents. So, she concluded that grandparents should never prevent the parents from seeing their children.
Halfway thru dinner, I really started to miss Joshua. I have always seen him everyday, and I guess I cannot not see my son even for 1 day. But as hubby pointed out, it's already late by the time we finished dinner and we have some groceries to buy. I was really disappointed. I should have insisted to my mum that I want to see my son. Because of this, I couldn't shop for the groceries whole-heartedly. My mind was on Joshua the whole time.
Throughout work today, Joshua was on my mind most of the time. One of the rare occasion that I'm actually counting the hours before I can go home and see my baby boy, as my parents dropped him back to my mum in law's place today. Reached home, and rushed to see him. He was playing with his father, laughing and kicking away happily. Carried him immediately and gave him a big hug and lots of kisses! No way is mummy going to be away from you for any amount of time if mummy can help it without seeing you at all, darling Joshua!!
Joshua spent Wednesday and Thursday night with my parents this week. We wanted him to get used to my parents' house as well, in any events in future that might need him to spend some nights there. I have learned that babies are smart enough to recognize their surroundings. Joshua will not sleep in a room or area where he has never slept before at night. We made a mistake on Wednesday night as we dropped him at my parents' place at night. We should have asked my parents to collect him in the daytime and let him get used to my parents' place during the day first. Poor baby cried like crazy when we tried to put him to sleep in my parents' room. Refused to sleep. In the end, we tried putting him to sleep where we usually put him when we visit my parents. Thankfully he seemed to recognize the place, and promptly went to sleep till 5am when he woke up for his milk. Amazing!
Hubby and I planned to go see him on Thursday night. Everything was already planned. I'm to wait at home while waiting for hubby to reach home to pick me up for dinner. We will visit Joshua after our dinner. While waiting for hubby to arrive, my mother called, requesting us not to go visit Joshua as she wants to get Joshua to sleep without the parents around to comfort him. In case next time in future, we are really not around. At one point, I do agree with her. Informed my hubby about it when he came home, so we just went out for dinner.
I told my mum in law that we won't be visiting Joshua and she asked why. I explained to her what my mum told me, and mum in law told me she disagree. She (mum in law) believes that parents should be with their children everyday, even if it's for a few hours. It makes a difference for the baby to see his/her parents once a day. She also mentioned that the love and bond of grandparents with their grandchildren can never be compared to the love and bond of the babies and their parents. So, she concluded that grandparents should never prevent the parents from seeing their children.
Halfway thru dinner, I really started to miss Joshua. I have always seen him everyday, and I guess I cannot not see my son even for 1 day. But as hubby pointed out, it's already late by the time we finished dinner and we have some groceries to buy. I was really disappointed. I should have insisted to my mum that I want to see my son. Because of this, I couldn't shop for the groceries whole-heartedly. My mind was on Joshua the whole time.
Throughout work today, Joshua was on my mind most of the time. One of the rare occasion that I'm actually counting the hours before I can go home and see my baby boy, as my parents dropped him back to my mum in law's place today. Reached home, and rushed to see him. He was playing with his father, laughing and kicking away happily. Carried him immediately and gave him a big hug and lots of kisses! No way is mummy going to be away from you for any amount of time if mummy can help it without seeing you at all, darling Joshua!!
5 comments:
"Put to sleep" and "put to bed" mean the sky and earth! Totally different meanings and I suggest you use "put to bed" instead. People "put to sleep" animals, they don't "put to sleep" kids ;)
Hahah! Thank you for pointing that out for me! Didn't cross my mind till you did.
I don't blame you for feeling that way - what with such an adorable lil' bun waiting for you back home! *Gerrraaamm!*
He's so cute! If he weren't already crying I would've bitten his cheeks that day! :-P
You are very deeply in love with your son as you should be! Very lucky, all three of you!
So sweet!!! & totally agree with Pugly...so geram!!!
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